A Candy - In Exchange of My Life!

Of late, I’ve been wondering what work – a career – has given me thus far besides that monthly income it provided me with and all that that have been attained…


Yes, it has provided me with much bless too: many of what that were attained were made possible by the income gained each month through the hours invested daily at work, in exchange for that dollars gained.

It was possible to buy a house and built a family when there’s an income from a steady job to offer as an assurance for the Bank to alllow me a long-termed loan; it was possible to provide the family with what were needed.

In all fairness, work was to be perceived with gratitude.

But what elses there are beyond these attainments and feelings of gratitude? What price have been paid, and what dues need paying further, down the years of having a job - a career - as menifested by Corporates wanting to tie us down with unfaltering commitments? But to what expense, to what price needing paying in exchange?

…I can helped today feeling and perceiving work like a process of getting a candy in exchange for our daily hours of commitment to a higher authority for a Corporate’s cause, shaped and ruled by the Corporate’s Board.

It’s horroring for me to realised that we are governed and made to measured up to Corporate’s “values” and “standards”: failing short of them, we’re put at the mercy of the Corporate judgement – through the punish and reward mechanism – meted to put us back in line, to deter others from questioning thoses “values” and “standards”; in doing so, to preserve dominance upon us!

To a certain extend, work is at the expense of giving up my true self, freedom, independence for the mere dollars I would gain monthly throughout my years of service – my years of life – given away in exchange for that candies in the jar sold in the Corporate store of perceived promises.

And in all irony, work was firstly meant as a mean to establish that independence, freedom and finding that defining self! Today, it entraps me in this tangle box of paradigm and inner personal hole!

Brief History of the Boy Scouts movement....

Have you ever wonder why Boy Scouts all over the world shakehand with their left rather than their right?


Well, here's a short history recording the event that led to the perculiar culture of the Boy Scouts movement, a culture picked up by the founder of the movement himself, Lord Baden-Powell.

It goes like this....


"WHEN COLONEL BADEN-POWELL entered the capital city of the *Ashanti people in 1890, he was met by one of the Chiefs who came to him holding out his left hand.

Baden-Powell held out his right in return but the Chief said: ''No, in my country the bravest of the brave shake with the left hand."

So began the "Left Handshake" of the world-wide brotherhood of Scouts.

Perhaps that was the spirit and symbolism of bravery Lord Baden-Powell was trying to instilled in the souls of the boys he groomed in the Scouts movement when he adopted the left handshake. And this message is crafted nicely in the virtues of the movement, as embedded in the Scout Promise & The Scout Law....

So who is this Lord Baden-Powell and the Ashanti people? Click the link below to known them better....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baden_Powell

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ashanti

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anglo-Asante_Wars

HAVE YOU A DREAM?

Why not?


Just because you are born with only one leg and you felt impaired by it? There are many people out there who are physical endowed with complete physical capability, yet felt totally impaired inside. So with one leg, you could even be better off than them!

The question then, why not: why not you have a dream?

Is it because you just can’t know how to have one! Because in your family no one has ever reached their own dreams before, and thus you can’t see how you could? There isn’t a model for you to emulate, thus to speak and you just can’t seem to see how you could?

Are there still other reasons why not you have a dream? Because you’re a woman, and it’s said that a woman is inferior than her opposite counterpart? And therefore you bought the notion and are hindered by it? Is the notion true, in the first place? Should you buy it?

Or is it just because you’re afraid?

This introduction will lead you to asking and finding the answer to your inhibitions to having a dream, let alone fulfilling it. This idea will guide you to understand and overcome those inhibitions, and successfully embarked upon your journey of fulfilling your dream.
There are no reasons why you should not have a dream! Life is far too short for you to waste it upon your very own fears and inhibitions!

This introduction is written in simple language to help you understand the very things you need to understand, and not much simpler is this introduction written than in plain and layman terms. The whole idea is to make your reading and learning, and ultimately your embarkation towards your dream, becoming a truly pleasant and less burdening an experience.

It is always important to be able to enjoy what you’re doing, as in the long run it will help you sustain your interest and motivation towards achieving your dream. Why not?

After all the idea of fulfilling your dream is to get where you want to be or obtained what you want in life so that it could help make your life much pleasant and happier than before. And no better way to start having that pleasant beginning than to enjoy your journey towards discovering and fulfilling your very own dreams! Why not?

Mayn Yingele - My Little One!

(A Yiddish Song)

I have a son, a little son,
A boy completely fine.
Whenever I see him,
it seems to me
That all the world is mine.
But seldom, seldom do I see
My child awake and bright.
I only see him when he sleeps;
I'm only home at night.
It's early when I leave for work;
When I return, it's late.

Unknown to me is my own flesh,
Unknown is my child's face.
When I come home so wearily
My pale wife exclaims to me:
"You should have seen our child play."

I stand beside his little bed;
I look and try to hear.
In his dream he moves his lips:
"Why isn't Papa here?"

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Don't sacrifice your family, or even, your children's childhood, on the alter of career or other pursuits. You could be there to help create a wonderful and memorable childhood for them -- by simply being there for them. Take time to know them; take time to love them; and most of all, just be there to watch them play...

This Yiddish Song reminded me of my father, and the only thing I remembered of him was that he was always away in the early hours of the day even when the morn hasn't yet broken from its silent darkness! When he came back, I was already asleep, alone too, in the darkness of night. We grew up not knowing each other...

It came to a point I felt uncomfortable to be in his company; he was a father, yet a stranger to me. I felt sorry for him, now. I felt a twinging sadness in me whenever I see my old man, and now that I'm a father too, I wonder how would my son looks at me?

I try to be with him; have laughter with him; play with him; and I very much try to be a father he would be glad to have one too. Even should he has a chance to change for another, I wanted him not to do so...that is how much I wanted him to be glad to have me as his father.

Yet, I had not the power, or the rights, to impose upon him the ultimatum of choice: how he would choose to take me, will much depends on me behaving as one, a father to him. The choice in him is in direct proportion of my very own behaviour as a father to him and the resultants of perceived minds he would formed of me. That would indeed determines how he would take me as his father.

Even if he grew up to be a sensible man -- as fillial and morally-upbrought as he could be, to his grand, old dad -- but he would had never been able to betray his very own emotions: of his true, own feelings towards me... I love my son, as I dote my daugther; but whether I could be a good father to them, in that sense,depends much on how I treasure them in that manner discussed above.

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There are time when I wanted to quit work, and get much time just spending those magical moments with them. But in a world of reality as it is now for ours, all that seems to be, is just another mere fantasy.

But it should not stop me, or you my friends, from taking that small, accumulated time which when spent wisely on them, will yield results of love, bonding each and every one of us (you) in strong family ties too.

Your son, as mine, and your daughther, as mine too, need nothing more of those money and worldly gains, if it is not meant to enjoy it with...you! The secret then, is to strike that balance between providing for their needs, and making that time to be with them.

Take time to slow down at times; take time to rush for them at other times; but most of all, when you take that time, you would be glad, many years later down the road, many at times in their growth, you had indeed been there to witness it, and be there to be with them.

You would be glad because by then you would realised that when the chance to see them grow has already been bypassed in your life, it can never be reclaimed, ever again! You'll be glad that you had indeed, seized that only chance!

I never had wanted myself to grow in regrets throughout, in seeing my son's and daughter's childhoods passes by me without fond memories of us together spending time; I want to be there for him, and her, as I believe my father would want to be for me years ago had him find the way to do so and had he knows what I would had wanted our family to be like, in those years ago...

I believe by now, he had known and realised of what it means seeing that chance to see us grow had passes by him, and how it can never be reclaimed by him, ever again! Don't live life of regrets; live life of love and a life-span spent loving and being there for them, as what you wouldn't want your child as in the poem had portrayed him to be, sleeping at night, alone in twinging sadness and in his dream, had him wondering: "Why isn't Papa here, to stay and see him plays?"

Your son, as is my child, is too fragile to be beaten with the rod of emptiness, nor should he be confined in the darkness room of negligence.

Be there for them and be there as it's for yourselves too -- of having that chance to see them smile and play; having that moment of memories of them running to you, giving you that hugs and kisses you would cherish, throughout your phase of fatherhood. Once gone, it can never be reclaimed, ever again! "

In Becoming...
(Freedom II)

The shades that chained the mind
Hindering thy soul to roam free,
Fearing thy heart to think and dream
Shall be broken today by desire:
To become!

In becoming who we are
Or choose to be
We are indeed master of our
Own destiny:
And we shall not regret
Dreaming high, thinking big
For in becoming who we are
Or choose to be
Has the chain been broken thus indeed!

Your Train of Life: Where Are You Going, My Dear?

You're riding this train called "your life".
Where are you heading to?





Most of all, do you have a purpose to bring yourselves onto a journey of life?

What will your journey be like then? Will the ride be smooth, or bumpy at certain turns? Will you enjoy your ride?

Will your sense of purpose help you stick onto the journey no matter how unpleasant the journey may be at times? Will you move onwards on a journey towards reaching "someplace" in life?

What do you want to accomplish in life? What legacy would you want to leave behind as what you want others would remember you to be during your lifetime?

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If you don't know where you are going to, or not knowing what your purpose is on this journey of life, then any track would not matters: any track will take you "someplace else"!

But the question is: is that "someplace else" the actual place you want to be at the end of your journey?

Or will it leave you regretting not having the full control of the train wheel, of having that chance to master your own destiny and sending you on a journey of reaching that actual someplace you want to be?

If you understand the importance to be in control, then the difference between destiny and fate then becomes clearer: destiny is upon which you have control over (reasoning why we've always been told that no one can help us unless we help ourselves first, remember that saying?) whilst fate is upon which God set onto you a circumstance of which is in accordance of your chosen destiny, in the first place.

And that fate very much will be determined to be positive or otherwise, depending upon how you appreciate every degree of the journey's of life importance! Each appreciation will lead to better utilisation of your time, setting your focus onto the journey (minimising distractions) and ultimately, with God's willing, turn your fate into success of attaining to reach that actual place you set forth to at the very beginning of that awareness to be in control of your destiny/journey.

The choice begins with you understanding your purpose in life; it begins with the realization that we are capable to be in command of our own destiny!

The Importance of Positive Reading in Building Our Personal Development and Learning Capacity

At the individual level:

"Those who do not seek to grow & develop, are always dwarfed & impaired in esteem, emotional, intellectual, mental and perceptive handicap & limitations".

At the social level, as living societal beings we are, then:
"Those who do not seek to grow & develop, are always dwarfed & impaired in personal, social, spiritual and leadership handicap and limitations that crippled them from becoming an effective & respected leader".

Therefore, it is important to continuously read, learn, and develop our capacity for knowledge and life-skills abilities in order to remain relevant and of value to our own self-perceived well-beings, as well as of able to be of benefits to others too. Without that knowledge and life-skills abilities capacity, we will always be at a disadvantage as in being made to feel, and therefore would acted in like an impaired and dwarf by those limitations we had ignore to expand, groom and develop earlier on in our life.

That explains why it is important now -- in our youth and our still living days as we are now -- to begin learning to do so. Waiting at the old age of retirement to laze down with reading materials might in truth, be not as a viable option -- as by that time, we might have lost much of the gifted senses and health to carry out such development that had ought to be done in youth.

Reading (and writing) is one such exercise that would benefit us in such manner of development we seek after. Its not as hard an activity as many perceived it to be; its in learning that it benefited us in such manner of lifting us beyond mental, emotional and spiritual poverty, beyond ignorance, beyond passiveness, and beyond shallowness to life full of richness (materially perhaps, as well as, rich in esteem, spiritual wisdom, emotional intelligence, and perhaps rich too in term of social liquidity), to greatness as in being able to perform and function to the best of wisdom and leadership, then perhaps the mental paradigm of uneasiness and reluctance, can be shifted to one that lead to true enjoyment and joy of seeking to read what is there that are positively nutritional and enriching products of writings for our mental, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, esteem and perceptive growth and health.

If You Could Improve Your Life Right Now, What Would It Be On?

The minds and hearts are precious gifts upon which the basis of human quality lives are chiseled and shaped from. The latent potentials are indeed worth mastery at!


To have that quality of thought, and an access to the power of my subconscious mind and heart – and having mastery upon them, if these could be considered things I could improve on – then surely, they will be my priorities for improvements worth investing at!

The latent happiness we’re pursuing is cocooned, all these whiles within ourselves – personal liberation becomes my priorities for improvements, and a promise I’ll like fulfilling right now!